Once again, months have passed and I have not had a blog update. Honestly, the reason I have found it so difficult to post is because initially I had started this blog in hopes of helping other parents who found themselves in our situation, but as we have gone through treatment, I just can't even put into words what we are doing that is helping her - and on top of that, every child is different - what works for us may not work for your child, and may actually make things worse. So I have been very very hesitant to post tips and techniques, because there is so much minute details that go into feeding therapy that I could never "rewrite" it onto paper. So, from here on out, I will just post updates on how Abby is doing, and maybe some other fun stuff :). If you are a parent looking for help, please please find a feeding therapist/clinic ASAP! The roadblocks we are experiencing now may have been prevented if we sought treatment when she was just 4/6 months old instead of 12 months old!
So, where are we at today? Well, Abby had been doing pretty good - however in the last month or so we began to notice that feeds were/are taking double the time, she was/is spitting out a lot of the finger foods, she was/is gagging/coughing a lot more and just being a bit more (a lot more) defiant. Well…I finally put my finger on it after watching every bit of food go into her mouth, stay in there for a long time, then either get spit back out (in the same shape it went in), or was swallowed whole - this girl does not chew. The closest she gets to chewing is a gnawing like motion of "chewing" yet her teeth never fully bite down together to masticate/grind the food to where it is ready to be swallowed.
I quickly brought this to the attention of our therapist, sent her some videos, and she got the Clinic's speech pathologist involved - and yes indeed we have a pretty significant problem on our hands. It looks like Abby has some sensory issues with chewing, maybe even anxiety - when she gets a textured food, she waits for it to either dissolve in her mouth, swallows it whole, or it gets stuck on her tongue and she freaks out and starts gagging, coughing and trying to spit it out (imagine taking a bite of a gold fish, pieces may crumble in your mouth, others stay large - you know that by not chewing it up it's going to hurt swallowing that whole, so your protective instincts pop in and say get that out of my mouth - this is what's happening).
When Abby eats her puree's/yogurts she is perfectly happy and content - she does not have to think, she does not have to do anything, just opens her mouth, and swallows. Up until the past month we have manipulated her food to present to her in a way that would be "easy" for her to command in her mouth - we'd mush it, make it into tiny pieces, or we'd give her foods that were already like this (refried beans, large soft steak potato fries etc) - but now we've got to address this before moving forward. I mean, think about it, chewing is one of the foundations of eating.
We are still working on coming up with a protocol that can address this issue - the therapist is here today, and back next week - in the meantime she will teach me some things and I will have to do these exercises with abby 2-3 times a day. And I know it's not going to be pretty. The exercises mainly consist of putting a crunchy food (cheeto, veggie sticks, gold fish, crackers) on abby's back molars and requiring her to bite down, 3-4 times, making the "crunching" sound, (we will do the same thing so she see's us chewing/crunching), then say chew chew or chomp chomp and show her what it should look like (yay i get to show someone my chewed up food and it not be offensive! haha jk!) - we even have a mirror for her to look at her mouth to see what she is doing and how it looks in her mouth. She needs to learn what her teeth can do! This may sound like an easy exercise, but it's not when she does not like having to bite down and chew in the first place - so I will be taking a lot of deep breaths this week and praying that she catches on fast!
Here is a
quick video of what her chewing exercises will look like.
Some may wonder why we didn't catch this sooner - and it's a good question. Abby is currently eating at the level of a 8/9 month old baby (she will be 2 in 4 weeks!) - so we expected some delays. Her back molars did not come in until a few months ago, so up until then when she was "gnawing" and "munching" we thought it was normal because there were no teeth back there for her to "chew" with. But now all the dots have lined up and it's pretty clear that there is an issue now.
Your continued prayers for Abby are so appreciated - and for mommy too, well because feeding a child who doesn't want to eat 6 times a day, 7 days a week can be… exhausting, overwhelming, stressful, etc etc - but we are SO encouraged by the progress she has made _ i mean she's been on the charts for almost 3 months now! :D And we are SO blessed to be a part of Clinic 4 Kidz - how I wish services like these were offered all over the world - because it is therapy like this that makes a difference!
Until next time….
